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Recognizing Red Flags in Online Interactions

By I'm Coming | January 2025

The internet is an amazing place to meet people, but not everyone has the best intentions. According to a report by the Pew Research Center, nearly 30% of internet users have encountered negative or harmful behavior online. Whether you're connecting with potential friends, activity partners, or dating, it’s important to recognize the red flags that signal something isn’t quite right. Let’s break down how to spot potential warning signs and what you can do about it.

1. Pressuring You for Personal Information

A classic red flag is when someone pressures you to reveal too much personal information, especially early on. Whether it’s asking for your phone number, address, or other sensitive data, a person should never rush you to share these details. According to the FTC, phishing scams that prey on personal data make up over 35% of internet fraud complaints. If someone seems overly eager to know your private information, it’s best to disengage.

2. Inconsistent or Contradictory Stories

If someone’s story seems to shift or doesn’t add up, take note. It could indicate that they’re not being truthful. Whether they say one thing in one conversation and contradict themselves in the next, inconsistencies can be a big warning sign. Trustworthy individuals are open and consistent, and if something feels off, it’s often because it is.

3. Overly Flattering or Complimenting You

While compliments can feel nice, overly flattering behavior can be a tactic used to manipulate or pressure you into doing something you’re not comfortable with. According to a study by Psychology Today, individuals who use excessive flattery often aim to control others' decisions by making them feel special or indebted. Keep an eye out for compliments that feel too scripted or overly personal.

4. They Avoid Sharing Basic Information About Themselves

If someone is always evasive when asked about basic details like where they live or what they do, it could be a sign they have something to hide. Healthy relationships—whether friendships or romantic—are built on mutual sharing and understanding. If the person you’re chatting with seems unwilling to reveal anything about themselves, it might be time to reconsider the interaction.

5. Aggressive Behavior or Demanding Responses

A significant red flag is when someone pushes for a response or becomes aggressive when you’re not immediately available. According to a survey by NortonLifeLock, 1 in 5 people have been stalked or harassed online, and this behavior can escalate to offline stalking. If someone is consistently pushing you for replies, demanding your attention, or using aggressive language, it’s important to block and report them immediately.

Recognizing these red flags early can help protect you from potentially harmful situations, ensuring your online experiences remain positive and safe.